If you cheat on someone you love…you simply do not love them, if you’re unfaithful, you are not in love with them. You actions can ever be justified, none of that “people make mistakes. I don’t care if you say “we’re all human”. Cheating is NOT a mistake, it is a CHOICE, and you choose to be unfaithful, you choose to be with someone else when you don’t have too. Cheating on someone is not a mistake when you truly love someone.
As a result, cheating is difficult to define because people differ in the type of contact they feel it is appropriate for a partner to have with someone else. Cheating is complex because the definition varies so widely. However, when someone violates partners’ expectations, the emotional outcome is the same – their partner feels betrayed and rejected. Cheating is also problematic because couples rarely discuss exactly what their expectations are.
In any given relationship, what one person considers to be acceptable may differ from what a partner thinks is appropriate. Many problems arise in relationships because people do not see eye-to-eye on this issue.
The first time that I was cheated on, it was horrible and I couldn’t stop thinking about it, about why I wasn’t good enough I didn’t get it. I was with him for so long I didn’t even think this was possible, I got back with him because I wanted to make things worse and I just didn’t want to be on my own, I was terrified of that. Being with someone for so long, and then for them to just betray you in no less than 24 hours is horrible, but course, that didn’t stop me getting back with the guy. No surprises that he did it again, this time he tried to make up so many stupid excuses, but there’s no excuses for it, especially if he’s said he wouldn’t do it again after he’s already done it once, it was inevitable, once a cheat, always a cheat.
He told me he was gay and that he “felt” gay about 6 months into the relationship, but what fucked me up the most about that was he waited until two years after to tell me that the first time he cheated on me was just an excuse for me to leave him, but I am a reasonable person and will always give people second chances, and I know in that situation I gave second, third or fourth chances, which I know was stupid but I was SO in love with him I couldn’t help myself.
There were so many times that my friends wanted me to break up with him so I could just be happy
but there was always that part of me that wanted to stay because she didn’t want to be alone, but in the end, I felt more alone than ever anyway, didn’t do much difference to me anyway.
Being cheated on DOES affect someone in ways you won’t understand if you haven’t been cheated on, I don’t know what goes through someone’s head when they cheat, imagine breaking someone’s heart, and causing them so much pain & upset to that they can’t trust anyone without being crazy and paranoid that there’s someone else as well as them.
If you’re with someone who has been cheated on, you have to understand that they’re going to have trust issues and have issues with it. You have to understand that they might get angry or get confused as to why you like them, you have to be patient with them, because they’ve been betrayed, they’ve
been hurt and that’s always hard to get over.
Cheating on someone can never be justified, there’s no “buts” no “everyone’s human”. SHUT UP. That’s BULLSHIT and don’t even try and give your excuses. It’s horrible so I don’t suggest it, if you don’t like someone anymore, then why not just breakup with them, it won’t hurt any less but it might do you better in the long run.